When I'm Angry...

So I wrote yesterday that it is normal for people to get on our nerves. Since we all have functional brains, it is normal for us to get angry. You can imagine waking up in the morning and praying to God that the day should go smoothly for you. You then step out of your house for the business of the day; the first person they sent to you might be the bus driver who refuses to leave one spot until the bus is full. The anger is being built up gradually, and then the conductor decides to join you with another person because he does not have change. In your mind, you are like shey this guy is not crazy sha? Well, it’s too early to start arguing with a fool like you; keep the change. 

You finally get to work and there are lots to do on your table. As you are thinking of how to get started, a general meeting is called and Mrs. Manager starts yelling at you. She tells you how very incompetent you’ve been and how you need to sit up. She says everything you’ve been doing have just been somehow and she doesn’t even know why you were employed in the first place. At that moment, it is as if an invisible hand could give her a slap for you because you work like no man’s business and she doesn’t just appreciate.

There is always one day that just gets really annoying like the scenario I stylishly painted above. There are usually some forces that decide to gang up to fuel the anger in you. Most especially when they call you Mr, Mrs or Miss Gentle. For instance, when you are driving on Lagos road and you try to form that you are gentle. First time, the danfo driver just does somehow and you are like, let it just pass. Another one scratches your car while dragging with you in the traffic jam, let him just go. Then maybe you are finally getting to your final destination and one guy that is forming big boy decides to show his power. It is at that instance that one bolt will just loose from where it was tightly screwed and the mouth just starts producing big big grammar.

Today, I am writing on what happens when we get angry. As for me, when I get angry, I notice that my body starts to shake. Then my big eyeballs become so red, I begin to sweat on my palms and the tip of my nose. The worst is when I decide to talk when I’m angry; instead of releasing my rage carefully, I will be shouting and crying. All these things that happen to me actually have their biological processes. 

First, the brain receives the message; like yo man, this girl is looking for your trouble. At this stage, your brain is trying to help figure out what the next action should be. Afterwards, the message is sent to the adrenal gland. They get to work releasing some hormonal assistance in the form of adrenaline. Your adrenal glands also let out some testosterone to give your anger a little power boost.

Next, adrenaline sends an intense wake up call to your muscles, twitching and jerking them into action. It is at this stage that for some guys, their palms gradually turn to fists. If a person is still at the scene at this stage, the next thing that occurs is that the adrenaline increases in the body system. This increases the volume and speed at which a person begins to speak. At this stage, one is being worked up and the pulse begins to increase. Trust me, at this stage there is little or nothing that can be done to appease the gods of anger.

Finally, this last stage is not nice at all. At this point, the deed has been done, blows have been exchanged. Most times, the actions are always dreadful and in the long run, the body calms down. At this point, the person begins to blame his or herself for what had happened.

Excessive anger can cause long term damage and a lower quality of life, leading people to poor decisions, risky decisions, and make them more vulnerable to substance abuse problems. As leaders of tomorrow, let’s get rejuvenated and make efforts to overcome anger and not allow anger overwhelm us. 

Much Love,

KanyinWrites.