Effects of anger

The things anger has done and will still do, even the power of anger cannot stand it. Anger actually is not bad in the real sense of it. It is part of the configurations of a human being. The Bible itself reiterates this by telling us not to allow the sun set on our anger. The actions that take place when we are angry are what determine whether it becomes sinful or not. As someone aiming to get to the top, it is imperative to be mindful of what you do. Do you take charge of what happens when you are angry or you allow anger control you?

One question I keep asking myself when I’m pushed to anger is “who anger epp?” (who has anger helped?)  From my observations and I’m sure you will agree with me; acting on the impulse of anger does more harm than good. What’s the point of saying you don’t know what got over you or you didn’t mean what you said? Why don’t you just try to calm down first? You can then express your hurt or disappointment to the person involved, as soon as possible.

In this post, I would like to go through some effects of anger. Anger does not only affect us emotionally, it affects us physically (health wise). As a matter of fact, anger affects the people around us. In terms of emotions, anger affects a person so badly. There was a time I was angry with a friend of mine, to the extent that we kept malice. You know all those kinds of outbursts that make you say very stupid things to each other? Both of us started jam talking and stuff. The things we said made us stop talking to each other. Imagine people who virtually spent most of their time together.  Because of anger, we destroyed the beautiful moments we shared. People would ask after her from me and stuff. I started mingling with other people. Emotionally, I felt so pained, I felt hurt in my spirit. Whenever I see her laughing with other people, my heart just usually skipped. I felt very uneasy and most times, I cry. I thought of the events that led to the quarrel and I asked myself if it was actually worth the hurt that I felt. As a result, I had to apologize. The truth however is, we are not as close as we used to be anymore.

There are some loved ones who have hurt us and we concluded we were not going to forgive them. Even if we don’t feel the pain just yet, sooner or later, we will. Let us take the bold step to just tell them how sorry we are. Even if you feel they were the ones at fault, call them and express your feelings. Mind you, if hurtful things have been said in the cause, it cannot be taken back. The only remedy is to prove that you still care. In case it is your boss that angered you and you expressed your anger in the most unrealistic way, you are sure to receive an emotional punishment. For some bosses who are not so nice, the person gets a sack letter. Some other bosses could be nice enough to demote such person. In the long run, after you realize your shortcomings, the deed has been done.

In terms of health, the list is endless. Anger makes us exert much energy than usual. Unnecessary muscles are flexed and in the cause, we could shout on top of our voices. This leads to headache, high blood pressure, depression, heart attacks and the likes of it. For those who keep people in mind when they are angry, when that person is sighted, their hearts skip. This reaction is most times not good for the health because the body could be in shock. For some people, when they are angry is the time they eat sugary things (ladies in the building). If the routine continues that way, being overweight is knocking on your door. And for those who become Mohammed Alli when they are angry, they could get hurt in the process. What’s the point of having a swollen eye or mouth when you could easily have left the scene knowing well that you are hot tempered? In my next post, I would be writing on what to do and what not to do when you are angry.

Anger can affect every day activities, like work and extracurricular. It becomes hard to focus on tasks or accomplish projects. People would not want to work alongside you. Anger also causes feelings like guilt, remorse and shame (especially if you generally act out in ways that you later regret.) If you’re angry and constantly stressed because of this, it’s also likely that you’ll feel unable to let loose and have fun.

Just like the saying that laughter is contagious, the same goes for other emotions too. Your anger can affect not only you, but the people in your life as well. It casts a negative feeling on those around you. At the very least, your anger can cause people to feel put off, upset, intimidated, afraid, or a handful of other unpleasant emotions. You’re also running the risk of pushing loved ones out of your life for good. Do you lash out at your partner when you’re angry? Whether this is emotional, physical or both, it can have an extremely negative effect on your partner’s well-being. Solving conflict with anger, yelling and violence also sets an unhealthy standard in a relationship. When your partner sees that you get angry at every instance of telling you the truth, it reduces open and trusting communication.

I hope this inspires someone today. If there is anyone who has hurt you or who you have hurt as a result of anger, take the necessary steps today. Rise up against the effect of anger. Anger has nothing on you. Remember, you are responsible for what you do.

Much Love,

KanyinWrites.